“But … what about their social life?” The question all new homeschool families hear

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The perennial question — posed to anyone who ever whispered the idea of homeschooling out loud — is, you guessed it, “What about their social life?” But, as many homeschoolers will tell you, there’s little cause for concern when it comes to socializing the home educated.

As founder of the National Home Education Research Institute, Brian Ray, told PBS, “Research shows that in terms of self-concept, self-esteem and the ability to get along in groups, homeschoolers do just as well as their public school peers.”

If your students are not at school from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. — with 3 hours of homework afterwards — it’s often the case that they’ll have more time for socialization.

What can a new homeschool family do for their high school student’s social life?

Sign them up for Girl Scouts, encourage a part-time job, create opportunities to serve in the church youth group, put those years of piano to use in a garage band, let them join a club soccer team … the options are endless.

If it’s the more traditional high school social experience you want, search out a community of homeschoolers in your area, and help coordinate field trips, a spring dance, or even a graduation.

Inevitably, this will help bring a community around you, too. And, as your teens socialize in community — with other parents and younger siblings of their friends — they may develop an increase in social maturity, and a decrease in communication apprehension in social situations.

So the next time you hear, “But … what about their social life?” Tell the well-meaning inquirer that homeschooling gives your teen the freedom to have a social life.


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